FUMUZAIHAIZIDECHENGZHANGZHONGDINGWEISHISHENME？KANGUOLAI!YOURENSHUOSANLIUDEMUQINZUOBAOMU，ERLIUDEMUQINZUOJIAOLIAN，YILIUDEMUQINSHENMEYANG？NISHISHUYUNAYILEIDEFUMUNI？GUQIEBUTAOLUNZHEIJUHUADEDUIYUCUO，WULUNSHIZENYANGDEMUQIN，“BANGYANG”YEHAO、“JIAOLIAN”YEHAO，“BAOMU”YEBA，DOUYOUYIGEGONGTONGWENTIYAOMIANDUI：RUHECHULIZIJIDEQINGXUWENTI。QIDAJIAOYULAOSHIWEINIZHENGLILEFUMUZAIHAIZIDECHENGZHANGZHONGDINGWEISHISHENME？KANGUOLAI!XIWANGNENGGOUDUINIYOUSUOBANGZHU!

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MUQINDEQINGXUDUIYUHAIZILAISHUOYIYIJIWEIZHONGYAO，MAMADEXINGGEYUPIQI，HUIZHIJIEYINGXIANGHAIZIDEXINLIFAYU。

MAMAXINGGEWENHE，HAIZIXINGQINGYEQUYUPINGHE，NEIXINSHIJIEWENDING；

MAMARUGUOXINGGEBAOZAO、XINUWUCHANG，HAIZIYEXINFUQIZAO，YUSHIQINGXUHUA，ZUOSHIRONGYIZHUDUOBUCHENG。

SUOYI，KONGZHIQINGXUSHIZUOXIANDAIMAMAXUYAOXUEXIDEZHONGYAOYIKE。

要学的第一个字是“虚”

HENDUOMAMAHENJINGMING，YIYANJIUNENGKANCHUHAIZIDEWENTI，ERQIERENBUZHUHENKUAIJIUYAOZHICHULAI，ZHEIBUSHIMUQINDENEIHAN。

ZAIKANDAOZIJIHAIZIYOUQUEDIANDESHIHOU，ZUOMUQINDEDOUBUYAOLIJIJIUFANYINGCHULAI。

WEISHENMEBUYAODONG，YINWEIHAIZIXUYAOKONGJIANQUZIJICHENGZHANG，MUQINSUIYIERGUODUODEPINGJIA，WANGWANGSHIHAIZISANGSHINEIZAIDEDONGLI，ERGENGDUOZAIYIMUQINDEFANYING。

YOUDEJIAZHANGHENNAMEN：

HAIZIZAIBIERENMIANQIANDOUHENHAO，YIHUIDAOJIA，YIKANDAOZIJIDEMAMAJIUBIANLELINGYIGERENSIDE，BIANDEJIZAOYOUBUKELIJIE。

WEISHENMEZHEIYANG，KENENGJIUSHIZHEIGE“XU”MEIZUOHAO。

ZUOBUDAOBULUSHENGSE、BUNENGGOUXUXIALAIDEMUQIN，WUFAJIHAIZIDEQINGXUTIGONGYIGEKONGJIAN。

HAIZIDEQINGXUDEBUDAOMUQINQINGXUDEBAORONG，YAOMEBIANDEJINXIAOSHENWEI，YAOMEDUIKANGXINGQIANG，QINZIGUANXINANYISHUNCHANG。

要学的第二个字是：“弱”

MUQINZAIHAIZIMIANQIANYAOXUEHUISHI“RUO”。

QIANGSHIMAMADEHAIZIHENNANZIXIN，HAIZIDEZIXINHUIZAIMAMAYIZHIQIANGSHIDEZHUANGTAILIYIDIANDIANXUERUO。

NENGGOUZAIHAIZIMIANQIANSHIRUODEMUQIN，SHIJISHANGSHITONGGUOSHIRUOSHIXIANDUIHAIZIDETUOJU，HAIZIDENEIXINHUIYINCIZHUJIANZIXINERJIANQIANG。

SUOYI，RUGUOXIWANGZIJIDEHAIZIZIXIN，JIUYAOXUEHUIZAIHAIZIMIANQIANSHIRUO。

FANSHIDUIHAIZIYIZHIQIANGSHIDEFUMU，SHIJISHANGSHIZAIYAZHIHAIZIDECHENGZHANGHEFAZHAN。

要学的第三个字是：“柔”

ZAIHAIZIDECHENGZHANGGUOCHENGZHONG，YIGEMUQINZHENZHENGDEJIAOYULILIANGZAIYU“ROUHE”。

NIHUIFAXIAN，YUEROUHEDEMUQIN，YOUSHIHOUDAIDONGHAIZIDENENGLIYUEQIANG，YUESHICHEZHESANGMENZHENGTIANDUIHAIZIJIAORANGDEMUQIN，ZEWANGWANGNANYITIAOQIZHENZHENGYINDAOHEDAIDONGHAIZIDEZHONGDAN。

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MEIWEIJIAZHANGDOUZHONGSHIHAIZIDEXUEXI，DANSHI，JIAZHANGDEXINTAIYINGGAIFANGZAINA？

QINGQIANWANBUYAOJIZHEBAOBAN、ZHEJIZHAOJIAJIAO、ZHEJIZHAOYIXIEFANGFACENGMIANDEDONGXILAIJIEJUEHAIZIDEXUEXIWENTI。

JIATINGJIAOYUZHONGZAIYANG，ERFEIZAIJIAO。WOMENXUYAOTEBIEJIEDUYIXIALIANGGEZI：YISHIQING，ERSHILI。

JIAOYUXUYAOYOUQINGYOULI，ZHEISHIJIAZHANGMENZAIJIAOYUHAIZISHIBIXUZUNSHOUDEYUANZE。

JIAOWUDINGFA，DUIDAIBUTONGJIATINGDEHAIZIYIJIHAIZIDEBUTONGCHENGZHANGJIEDUAN，XUYAODEFANGFAKENDINGSHIBUTONGDE。

DANSHIYOUYIGEGONGTONGDEYUANZEXUYAOZHUYI，NEIJIUSHIYAOYOUQINGYOULI，QINGZAILIDEQIANMIAN。

XIANZAIJIATINGJIAOYUDEXIANZHUANGSHISHENMENI？

YOUQINGWULI，JIAZHANGAIHAIZIDESHIHOUAIDEMEIBIAN。

GUANXINHAIZIDESHIHOU，LIANHAIZIDEWAZIDOUYAOJITACHUAN、JITAXI（YIJINGZUGOUDADEHAIZI）。

ZHEIJIAOAIMA？ZHEIGEQINGYIJINGSHIQULEJIAOYUDEJIAZHI。

LINGYIGEXIANZHUANGSHIYOULIWUQING，YOUQISHIJIAZHANGJIHAIZIJIANGDAOLIDESHIHOU，MEIYOUGANQINGPUDIAN。

RENHECENGMIANDEJIAOYU，SHOUXIANSHIYAOJIBEIJIAOYUZHECHUANDAJIAOYUZHEBENSHENDEZHENSHIDENEIZAIQINGGAN。

GANQINGZUOZULE，DENGDAOHAIZIKEWANGWOMENJIANGYIXIEDONGXIDESHIHOU，JIAZHANGZAIBADAOLIDIANCHULAI。

YIDINGSHIQINGGANJIAOLIUDAOYIDINGCHENGDUDESHIHOU，HAIZICAIHUIZHUDONGSHUO：“MAMA，NEIWOGAIZENMENI？”

ZHEIGESHIHOUYIGEXIAODAOLIGUOQU，CAIYOUKENENGSHIXIANDAIJIHAIZIDEYIZHONGYINDAONENGLI。

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JIAZHANGNEIXINJIAOLVYUFUBIHAIZIYOUXUEXIWENTIGENGKEPA。

HAIZICHUXIANXUEXIWENTIBINGBUKEPA，KEPADESHIDAOZHIHAIZINEIXINBUANDEGANRAOYUAN。

YEJIUSHISHUO，HAIZINEIZAIJICHUCENGMIANDEZHICHENGLUANLE，CAISHIZUIKEPADESHI。

JIAZHANGBIXUYONGYOUQINGXUZIKONGDENENGLI，HAIZICHUXIANWENTISHI，NIXIANBUYAOJIZAO，XIANPINGJINGXIALAI，BAZIJIDEQINGXUDIAOZHENGHAO，RANHOUZAIMIANDUIWENTI。

RUHESHIXIANQINGXUDEZIWODIAOKONGHEGUANLI，ZHEISHIDUIJIAZHANGTICHUDEYIGESHENCENGCIDEWENTI。

“ZHIYOUPINGJINGDENEIXIN，CAIYOUKENENGCHENDIANHEXISHOUJIAOYUDELIXINGSIKAO”。

ZHIYOUWOMENJIAZHANGDENEIXINPINGJINGXIALAI，CAINENGBAJIAOYUZHEDUIJIAOYUDELIXINGSIKAOCHENDIANDAONEIXINLIMIAN，CHENDIANWEIZIJIDEYIZHONGZHUANGTAI。

RUGUOMEIYOUZHEIYIZHONGGUOCHENG，WUFABATANEIHUAWEIZIJIDEYIZHONGZHUANGTAI，NIDURENHEJIAOYULINIANDOUSHIWUXIAODE。

YINWEIBUNENGNEIHUAHECHENDIAN，NIJIUWUFAYONGYOUSHISHIJIAOYUDEZIBEN，WUFANAZHEJIAOYUZHUANJIADEDONGXIZAIZIJIJIATINGLIQUSHIXIAN。

家庭教育的空间一定要留给孩子。

JIATINGJIAOYUYAOXIANGZUOHAO，YINGGAIXIAGONGFUZUODESHIZAILIANGTOU，YITOUSHIFUQIN，YITOUSHIMUQIN，ZHONGJIANZHEIYIDUAN，RENHEHAIZIDECHENGZHANGDOUSHIZAIWANYANQUZHEDEGUOCHENGZHONGWANCHENGDE，ZHEIGEKONGJIANYAOLIUJIHAIZI，BUYAOGUANTA。

YILIUDEJIAZHANGKAOFANG，BUDONGJIAOYUDEJIAZHANGKAOGUAN，GUANHAIZISHIBAIFENZHIBAIDESHIBAI，FANGHAIZIYOUBAIFENZHIWUSHIDECHENGGONG。

TIANTIANZHUAZHEHAIZIBUFANGDEJIATINGTIAODAOCUOWUDEKONGJIANLILAILE，ZHEIGEKONGJIANSHIMEIGEHAIZIZIJIDULIWANCHENGDE。

DANSHIHENDUOJIAZHANGCANYUDAOZHEIGEKONGJIANLIMIANDINGZHEBUFANG，BABUCHULAI，BURANGTAGUANBUXING，BURANGTAGUANJIUMEIYOUBIEDESHIKEGUANLE。

YOUDEJIAZHANGSHUO，NIRANGWOFANGJIUBUGUANLEMA？

RANGNIFANGBUSHIBUGUAN，SHIRANGNIZHANDAONIDEJIAOSELIMIAN。YAODUIHAIZIDEQINGXUZUOYANGHU，ERBUSHIDUIHAIZIDEXINGWEICENGMIANDEDONGXIGUODUODICANYU。

GUODUODECANYUDENGYUWOMENBUZHIBUJUE、JINGJINGYEYEZAIFANCUOWU。

JIAZHANGDEJIAOYUNENGLIANGYAOZUYIDIANRANHAIZIXUEXIDEREQING。

DANGYIGERENDUIXUEXISHIQUREQINGZHIHOU，ZAIHAODEZHISHANGYETANBUSHANGHENHAODEFAHUI。

YOUDEJIAZHANGSHUOHAIZIBIAOXIANBUHAO，BUHAOHAOXUEXI。SHISHISHANG，“QIURENBURUQIUJI，QIUJIBURUQIUXUE”。

ZHONGGUOWENHUAZUIDADETEDIANJIUSHINEISHI，《DAXUE》LIJIANG“ZHENGXIN、RANHOUCHENGYI”，ZHENGSHEIDEXIN？ZHENGJIAZHANGDEXIN，RANHOUZAIZHENGHAIZIDEXIN。

QISHI，QIZHIJUEDINGLEHAIZIDEXUEXICHAYI，HAIZIDEQIZHIJIUSHIFUMUDEZHUANGTAIMANMANNEIHUAJITAMENDEYIZHONGQIZHI，JIUXIANGWOMENDEZHIYEXIGUANYIYANG。

RUGUOYIGEJIAZHANGDENEIXINYONGYUANSHILENGMO、FUZAODEZHUANGTAI，RENHEJIAOYUSIXIANGZAITADEXINLIMIANLUOXIAQUJIUXIANGPINGPANGQIUYIYANGDANHUILAILE，HAIZIYEYIYANG。

父母的情绪孕育着孩子学习的情绪与气质。

QIDONGJIATINGJIAOYUDENENGLIANG，SHOUXIANYAOQIDONGJIAZHANGHEHAIZINEIXINLIUTONGDETIANRANQINGGAN。

WOMENFUMUHEHAIZIZHIJIANQINGXUHEQINGGANDELILIANG，YAODADAO“CHI”DECHENGDU。CHIJIUSHIRE，REDAONENGGOUSHAOKAOHAIZINEIXINDECHENGDU。

NASHENMEQUSUZAOHAIZIDEXINLING，SUZAOHAIZIDEQIZHI，JIUSHINAWOMENFUMUQIADANGDEQING。

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DANGXIAHENDUOHAIZIBUSHICAINENGSHANGDEQIANQUE，ERSHIQINGDEBUZU，YIDEMOHU。

JIAZHANGSHIHAIZIQINGHEYIZUIDADEQIMENGZHE，RUGUONIMENZHEIYIKUAIDEQIMENGLILIANGSHIQULE，DUIHAIZICAINENGSHANGDEBIAOXIANKENDINGSHIYIGEYIHAN。

JIATINGJIAOYUSHIZHENQINGDEHUIGUIHEWENHUADESHOUWANGYUCHUANCHENG，JIATINGJIAOYUBUNENGZAIZHANDAOFANGFAHEJISHUCENGMIANLAIZHETENGLE，YINGGAIZHANDAOWENHUAHEZHEXUEDEKONGJIANQUSHENSHI。

SUOYOUDEFUMUDOUSHIWENHUADEZAITI，BUTONGDEJIATINGWENHUAPEIYANGCHULAIDEHAIZIDEQIZHISHIBUTONGDE。

WENHUASHIJIAOYUDEQIZHI，JIAOYUZUODAOZUIGAODIANJIUSHIWENHUA，WENERHUAZHI，BUYONGSHUOHUAHAIZINEIXINJIUBEIWOMENGANHUALE，TONGSHICHANSHENGLINGWAIYIZHONGSHENGMINGLI。

JIAZHANGZISHENDUIJIAOYUSUZHIDEXIUYANGHETISHENG，JINJINSHISHIXIANJIATINGJIAOYUGONGNENGDEKAISHI。

HAIZIMENNEIXINDELUOJI，HEWOMENCHENGRENZHIJIANNEIXINZUNSHOUDELUOJISIWEISHIBUYIYANGDE、SHIYOUCHONGTUDE。

DANSHITAMENDEZHEIZHONGLUOJIWEIBISHIBUHAODE，XUYAOWOMENQUKAIFA、MIANDUI、ZHIDAO。

WOMENYAOFANWENDESHI：

WOMENDEJIAOYUCHUBEIGOUBUGOU？

WOMENDEJIATINGJIAOYUNENGLIANGGOUBUGOU？

WOMENDEJIAOYUXIUYANGGOUBUGOU？

ZAIJIAOYUSHANG，FANGFADELILIANGSHIYOUXIANDE，JIAZHANGZAIJIAOYUHAIZIWENTISHANGZHENZHENGQIANQUEDESHISHENMENI，ZHENZHENGQIANQUEDEBUSHIFANGFA，SHIZHUANGTAI，SHIFUMUDEJIAOYUZHUANGTAI。

XIANZAIYOUHENDUOMUQINDELIXINGRANGWOJUEDEBIJIAOKEPA，ZAITANJIHAIZIDESHIHOU，QUEFAQINGGANDEJICHU，QUEFAQINGGANDEZHICHENG。

MUQINDEZHEIZHONGLIXINGZAIJIAOYUHAIZIWENTISHANGSHIHENKEPADE。

FUQINHEJIAOYUSHIYOUJULIDE，YOUJULIBUKEPA，DANFUQINYAOBIAOMINGZAIJIATINGJIAOYUZHEIGEKONGJIANLIDEWEIZHI，YAOBIAODAQINGCHUZAIJIALIDUIHAIZIDEJINGSHENDAOXIANGSHISHENME。

教育的最佳状态在于一个“养”字。家庭教育重在养，而不在教。

XIANZAIHAIZIXUEXISHANGDEWENTI，GEZHONGGEYANGDEWENTIGUINAQILAIJIUSHIXINLIDEBUZU，XINLIMIANDUIXUEXIREQINGBUZU。

养鱼重在养水，养树重在养根，养人重在养心。

RUGUOYIGEHAIZIDEXINZAIJIALIMIANDEBUDAOYANGHU，DEBUDAOYOUXIAODEZIYANG，TIANFUDECONGMINGJIUMEIYOUJICHU；

ZHISHANGZAIGAO，MEIYOUQIADANGDE、XIANGYINGDEXINTAIZHICHENG，TIANFUHENNANFAHUI。

WOMENXIANBUJIANGHAIZIDEXINRUHE，XIANKANKANYANGHAIZIXINDEREN，YEJIUSHIFUMUDEXINSHIBUSHIHEYANGHAIZI，HUOZHERUHEDADAOYANGHAIZIDEZHUANGTAI。

RUHEDIANRANHAIZINEIXINDEXUEXIREQING，DIANRANXUYAOYIDINGDEWENDU，XUYAOYIDINGDEZHUANGTAICAINENGDIANRAN。

RUGUOJIAZHANGDEXINSHILENGMO、MAMUHUOZHESHIJIAOLVBUANDE，WOMENHENNANQUDIANRANHAIZIXUEXIDEREQING。

MIANDUIHAIZIBUGUANCHUXIANRENHEZHUANGTAIDESHIHOU，QINGJIZHU：

ZUOWEIYIMINGJIAZHANG，BAOZHENGZIJIQINGXUDEPINGHE，ZHEISHININDUIHAIZIZUIWEIDADEJIAOYU